So there I was transcribing an archived 2009 Metafilter podcast and once again picking up vital information as I move along. This AskMeFi topic hits home because soon, very soon, I WILL BE DATING!
This AskMeFi they were discussing regarded dating and the obvious seduction techniques a smart mefi girl kept noticing. I guess there are several popular online communities offering advice to nerds? Looks like I might have homework if I do not want to be in the dark.
And Matt Haughey is so funny. He gets it.
He understand nerds probably have social anxiety and they want a playbook. They might say to themselves, “Oh! It’s just like python. I learn a little syntax and the output is I get a woman in my bed.”
So this girl has had these techniques used on her by guys she TOTALLY LIKED .. until they became transparent and predictable.
One technique is called "negging"
A “neg” is essentially a back-handed compliment. The purpose of negging is to “reduce a woman’s social value” in order to “penetrate her bitch shield” and “bring her social perception more in line with reality.” Essentially, to knock down her self esteem a bit so she’s more open to the guy.
I think if I really liked someone and saw that they were using these techniques on me, I would call him out in a nice way (using my honed soft skills, of course) and tell him to stop what he is doing but let’s TALK about why he thinks he needs to use them on me. Or anyone.
This way, even if WE do not work out, I have coached him for the next girl he meets. Making the world a much better place for us women.
has it ever occurred to you that you could change your life right this second if you really wanted to? you could stand up and yell at your teacher if you wanted to, you could place yourself in a life or death situation if you wanted, you could even take that risk and just spontaneously and passionately kiss the one you really love by surprise. you could change the entire outcome of our lives, and if our lives are really as bad as we say they are, why won’t we take those chances.
So twitter has been down all day?
NO REMAKES: The Breakfast Club
UNIVERSAL SIGN: Arms removed by hatchet.
Stained fingers (because I never wear the gloves)
and my hair is Lucy Red.
Garnier Nutrisse Ultra R3 went in ORANGE and not in a good way. Everything is stained. The cabinet in the bathroom, too.
This is not l’oreal.
By now I have rinsed and I am still a little afraid.
AND MY HAIR IS STILL WET.
The thought of sunlight on this makes me shiver.
Way to keep it interesting, X.
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